Be correct OR be BLISSFULL...

If you’ve ever related to another human being, you’ve probably experienced this.

Let's take this scenario, you’re having a discussion with someone, and he or she says something you know as a matter of fact to be absolutely false. You can politely challenge this person’s inaccuracy, but most people don’t want to be wrong, and many others have a hard time admitting it. It’s human nature, our inner-fear mechanism adapted to today’s insecurities rather than the old “fight or flight” days. But depending on who you’re talking to, proving to somebody that they are wrong can get awkward if the people involved take it too personally.

Even when all evidence points to them being wrong, some people will stubbornly hang on to their views because they’d rather be right and comfortable in being wrong rather than risk the discomfort of having to assimilate new information into their worldview.

As a matter of fact, the people who are the most righteous are usually the most miserable people on this earth anyway, aren’t they? The ones who always have to be right are usually just taking their insecurities and unhappiness out on others, true?

Being right doesn’t always mean being happy, but if we’re happy it doesn’t really matter who’s right or wrong. Being right isn’t as important a consideration when you’re secure and focused. The only thing that’s important is: will the experience move me toward a result that I believe will support my happiness? That will mean being wrong sometimes, but we have to experience this in order to learn how to get it right, and then get happier.

Be correct or be blissful. Now replace the word “rich” with “blissful.” Does that change the meaning of the phrase any? Not one bit! You can be correct or you can be rich; it’s still a choice. Being correct could mean holding on to old ways that aren’t supportive of being rich; unconscious blueprints, programming and conditioning that links negative thoughts to money. The more you decide that you want to be right, the more you’ve decided that you can pretty well kiss away being rich, not just financially but emotionally, spiritually, and mentally too. You can be correct or you can be rich.

Money is a really blessed thing, and if you have the where-with-all to be able to earn or have a lot of it, you have an advantage over a situation; a gift, talent, skill or way of being that is actually a little different than most people out there. At that point, who needs to be right?!? The quality of your life is all the proof you need.

That doesn’t mean compromising your good sense to someone because of their inflexibility, but happy people don’t need to prove anything. They figured out that along the way, you have to be wrong at least occasionally in order to learn how to get it right. I’d rather be wrong and learn something that will benefit me later than “right” and learn nothing—and maybe get someone PO’d at me for being a smart-ass!

A general and his low morale army....

Well, i was told a story by a friend of mine and i feel that i will be using that for my life to be in future...I am not sure about you others but, i believe it goes for everyone too. The story goes..

"In one of the histories of China, there were two sides of armies. One of them was the attacker but with lesser men in it. The other was the defender who had more men, better ground advantage and what's best, they are IN the castle. The attacking side, seeing that they are greatly disadvantaged with a river to cross, high strong walls to break through and men outnumbered but 1:3, were greatly demoralized. Some of them could not even eat nor sleep properly thinking of that disadvantage and soon, it grew into fear that spread around the army like a virus. 

The general of the army saw this..and gathered all his men the night before the attack. With all his men lined up in formation and all waiting for the general to speak, mostly quivered and expected the worst. Then the general spoke with a strong clear voice:

"Forget the food that you're holding at your hand, you know that's crap! Forget the tents that you build for you know they are leaking and still makes you cold in the night! Forget the clothes you're wearing, for they will not protect nor keep you warm also!..Tomorrow, we will attack them! And we will win! And we will eat their best food, live in their big castle and also wear their best clothes! Don't fix your mind on what you currently have and use that to live for that will wear down or deplete and you will die a more torturous death than the enemies sword! We will attack them and we will win!"

His armies roared and it was so loud, it kept their enemies shaking even inside the castle..The next morning, they crossed that big river, attacked and they won....

I knew what my friend wanted to tell me right away....

Moral of the story/what my friend meant was:
"forget the thought of what you have, salary (for we all know it's never enough), places we stay (rented rooms, small apartments...sounds familiar?) or clothes/lifestyles that we have now..for we all know that will wear out...do something that you really want and put your head up high for that...even if the odds are greatly against you.."

Going ALL IN!

What are we really doing when we “put all our cards on the table?” What cards? What table?

There was a fad not so long ago … maybe it’s still going on today … but Texas Hold ‘Em Poker was the rage. Who knew the difference between a “River” and a “Flop” before about 2003?

In Poker there’s predictably a point in the game where you’re holding what you think is a killer hand. You might have to “up the ante” because somebody else is thinking the same thing, then those who haven’t folded put their cards on the table and let the chips fall where they may.

The expressions that come from card games serve as reminders on strategy, guessing, “Fake it ‘til you make it,” when not to push your luck and when to say, “What the hell, I’m all in!”  Going after those things that we want means taking risks without really knowing how the game will turn out.

But seriously, there’s nothing worse than playing a game of poker, getting a great hand, then upping the ante only to find out somebody else has an Ace to your King, or a Straight Flush to your Full House. But will a big loss be enough to keep you from throwing your cards on the table again? I mean a real kind of loss, like an investment gone sour or a business that took a big hit in the recession?

Your cards are going to change from game to game, as will the amount of chips you win and lose. But when we’re talking about laying our cards on the table, we gotta think about that table too.

If you’re playing on a three-legged table, well … you may still win from time to time, but ultimately that table isn’t gonna hold up over the long run, yes or yes? Your table’s got to be as strong as the cards you’re holding.

Play your cards if that’s what makes sense, but you have to be playing from a strong foundation to begin with—your table has to be sturdy enough to support a great hand to play when its time to play it. That support comes from the belief you have in yourself as well as your ability to play your cards to maximum effect. Those beliefs end up being the table’s legs, as what Anthony Robbins used in a metaphor. The more support you have in your legs, the stronger the table. In other words, start the game with self-supporting beliefs.

We can develop beliefs around anything if we find enough references to support it, yes? If we’re talking about financial success, you have to believe that you can or deserve to be a financial success. You have to visualize being there, like you belong there. The roots of our beliefs go deep.

What do the legs of your table look like right about now? What support can you honestly give yourself that—no matter what cards you happen to be holding at the time—you can lay them out with pride and confidence that you actually stand a chance of winning? Is one of your legs ‘persistence,’ or ‘willing to try new things’; or creativity, leadership, influencing? Whatever these legs are, they need to be true for you, and only you know that. If you don’t, asked trusted loved ones for support—then stand up!

You have to know when to hold ‘em, fold ‘em, go for it and call it a day, but know what legs you’re standing on, too.

When you tell her a story....

This is hilarious....but i think somewhat it can be true for some people. have a good laugh. :)

What is the difference between girls/women aged 8, 18, 28, 38, 48, 58, 68, and 78?

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At 8

You take her to bed and tell her a story

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At 18

You tell her a story and take her to bed

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At 28

You don't need to tell her a story to take her to bed

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At 38

She tells you a story and takes you to bed

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At 48

She tells you a story to avoid going to bed

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At 58

You stay in bed to avoid her story

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At 68

If you take her to bed, that'll be a story

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At 78

What story? What bed? Who the hell are you?

The Spoon...hahaha

This is pretty good.....got it out from my email too... :p


The spoon:
A lesson on how consultants can make a difference in an organization.
Last week, we took some friends to a new Indian restaurant, 'Muthu's Place,' and noticed that the Indian waiter who took our order carried a spoon in his shirt pocket.  It seemed a little strange. When the busboy brought our water and utensils, I observed that he also had a spoon in his shirt pocket. Then I looked around and saw that all the Indian staff had spoons in their pockets. When the waiter came back to serve our soup I inquired, 'Why the spoon?' 
'Well, 'he explained, 'the restaurant's owner hired Andersen Consulting to revamp all of our processes. After several months of analysis, they concluded that the spoon was the most frequently  dropped utensil. It represents a drop frequency of approximately 3 spoons per table per hour. If our personnel are better prepared, we can reduce the number of trips back to the kitchen and save 15 man-hours per shift.' 
As luck would have it, I dropped my spoon and he replaced it with his spare. 'I'll get another spoon next time I go to the kitchen instead of making an extra trip to get it right now..' I was impressed.

 I also noticed that there was a string hanging out of the Indian waiter's fly.

 Looking around, I saw that all of the Indian waiters had the same string hanging from their flies. So, before he walked off, I asked the waiter, 'Excuse me, but can you tell me why you have that string right there?'

 'Oh, certainly!' Then the Indian waiter lowered his voice. 'Not everyone is so observant. That consulting firm I mentioned also learned that we can save time in the restroom. By tying this string to the tip of our you-know-what, we can pull it out without touching it and eliminate the need to wash our hands, shortening the time spent in the restroom by 76.39%.'
I asked quietly, 'After you get it out, how do you put it back?'

'Well,' he whispered, 'I don't know about the others, but I use the spoon.'         

Nice inspirational quotes

Came across some nice quotes in the email. Thought of sharing it =). Hope you like them.

1]    Prayer is not a "spare wheel" that you pull out when in trouble, but it is a "steering wheel" that directs the right path throughout 

2]    Do you know why a Car's WINDSHIELD is so large & the Rearview Mirror is so small?
     Because our PAST is not as important as ur FUTURE. Look Ahead and Move on.

3]      Friendship is like a BOOK. It takes few seconds to burn, but it takes years to write.

4]     All things in life are temporary. If going well, enjoy it, they will not last forever.  If going wrong, don't worry, they can't last long either. 

5]    Old Friends are Gold! New Friends are Diamond! If you get a Diamond, don't forget the Gold!  Because to hold a Diamond, you always need a Base of Gold! 

6]    Often when we lose hope and think this is the end, GOD smiles from above and says, "Relax, sweetheart, it's just a bend, not the end! 

7]    When GOD solves your problems, you have faith in HIS abilities;  when GOD doesn't solve your problems HE has faith in your abilities. 

8]    A blind person asked Swami Vivekanand: "Can there be anything worse than losing eye sight?  He replied: "Yes, losing your vision!" 

9]    When you pray for others, God listens to you and blesses them, and sometimes, when you are  safe and happy, remember that someone has prayed for you. 

10]  WORRYING does not take away tomorrow's TROUBLES, it takes away today's PEACE

Mayonnaise jar & the coffee

 For those who think that they are always busy...just read this story and remember the Mayonnaise jar and the coffee 


A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him.  When the class began, wordlessly he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls.  He then asked the students if the jar was full.  They agreed that it was.

So the professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar.  He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the
golf balls.  He then asked the students again if the jar was full.  They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full.  The students responded with an unanimous " Yes."

The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.

" Now," said the professor, as the laughter subsided, " I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life.  The golf balls are the important things like your family, your children, your health, your friends, your favourite passions, things that if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.  The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house, and your car. The sand is everything else, like the small stuff."

" If you put the sand into the jar first," he continued, " there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life.  If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you.  Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your partner out to dinner; There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal.  Take care of the golf balls first, the
things that really matter.  Set your priorities.  The rest is just sand."

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented.  The professor smiled. " I'm glad you asked.  It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend"

Tips of Controlling Christmas Spending

Christmas Day is coming over less than a month's time, some people starting to prepare for the BIG day to come, including buying friends & family an exchange gift. Same here to me, I gonna to have a gift exchange game on the Christmas eve. Although it wasn't my first time to this exchanging game, just that to a practical person like me, I would buy something true value for money yet the significant within my budget boundary. Yes, same thing to you, set a budget for yourself for every occasion in your days. I read an article on the other day regarding this "Tips of Controlling Your Christmas Spending". If you are not worried about buying presents on this holiday season as you are about to spend it with you credit card, it might be the time to fling away your current gift list and start over with thoughtful gift which won't cause holiday stress. 

Here are some tips are being shared with you guys how to make this season a wise spending holiday, rather than getting wrapped up in this holiday season.

Set Limits for the Whole Holiday Spending

Give your credit card and your emotion a healthy holiday by limiting what you buy and what you can safely come out from you bank account. Create a spending budget to decide on what you are afford to buy or match it with your current budget in order to balance out your monthly responsibilities and holiday spending. The money you can spend on gifts is the money not going to pile up bills. If you have intention to spend little more on this holiday, it is not necessary come out from your last month's leftover saving. You can use the money that you would spend elsewhere in you daily lives, like morning starbucks coffee or fashion magazine. As long as you spend with cash (not your credit card), without over spend on your rental, car loan or house loan, you are in the safety zone. Remind yourself to be realistic on what you are willing to sacrifice. For my case, I would sacrifice my play budget on a new dress or a pair of nice shoes. So be it a spender, set a budget and reasonably limits and stick to the plan.

Customize your own gift list

You don't have to be Santa of giving away gifts to the whole world. If you shopping list includes more than six persons outside of your intimate family and friends, please do cut down the number of persons on your list. You can replace it with baking home-made gingerman cookies for those who have scratch off from the previous gift list.

Be a coupon collector 

Year-end sales is not a great deal to buy the gifts you listed. Before you go to stores, collect all the coupon s given from your mailbox or searching via online if there is any coupon code on online purchasing. Don't ever look down upon those little pieces of coupons, you would save from there to get best-price merchandise you ever have.

Give away personalized instead of expensive gifts
A small, thoughtful gift might be better than an expensive gift that someone may never use. Never let your impulses to spend on trendy stores. Buy a gift based on the personality of particular person and also save your time on gift selection. Expensive item doesn't mean it's practical.

Last, don't let the debt become the burden to your holiday celebration. Spend wisely, eat healthy and spend more time with your closest friends and family.  

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.... Cheers!

The secret behind The Secret

A lot of people asked me for my opinions on the phenomenon of The Secret and its focus on the Law of Attraction— which basically states if we envision what we want and think positive thoughts, these things will “attract” themselves into our lives.

There’s profound truth in the Law of Attraction, but if you want an example of some real live magic, take the example of J.K. Rowling, who wrote the Harry Potter books that turned into mega-hit movies. Her idea about a young magician just popped into her head one day. A little more than a decade later, she became a multi-millionaire. But this wasn’t just by luck.

I mean, Rowling may have had a profound “aha” moment, but it took years of focus, effort, overcoming obstacles, and developing herself as a person. In other words, she took action, and the riches still didn’t come all at once. But as she was establishing the roots of her character, she went from mild success to outrageous success. She didn’t just think of this and it happened.

The Law of Attraction is accurate, if for no other reason than self-fulfilling prophecy. You think, you feel, you act, you get a result. But it’s just one of many rules we have to consider in order to produce something. Like the Law of Investment—you put something to use, it will grow. You can’t always just think something into existence. You often have to do something too, yes?

We’ve all experienced the truth of The Law of Attraction. Ever think about somebody you haven’t talked to in a while only to have them call you within minutes? There’s all the proof we need about the power of thoughts and their connection to the universe.

When it comes to goal-setting though, we need focus that will direct our actions. So let’s put a little science to the magic, structure it a bit:

1. What kind of net income would you like to produce per year over the next three to five years? WRITE IT DOWN.
2. What do you want your net worth to be at the end of this time frame?  WRITE IT DOWN.

Now let’s sprinkle a little wishful thinking in there by adding a zero at the end of those numbers. Go ahead, add the 0 to the end of the numbers you wrote down!

When you have a focus and not just a wish, you’re taking another step toward figuring out the different ways you could go about meeting that goal. With that kind of focus, it’s clearer for you to see what you need to do, how you can go about doing it, and then the doors start opening. The coincidences start piling up. The confidence builds, and you find yourself manifesting your thoughts even faster.

We co-create reality with the Universe, or the Great Spirit, or whatever you want to call it, with our thoughts. So what you think definitely matters in what gets attracted to you.

But we also have to take focused, effective, consistent action, with the power of optimism as the emotional fuel. Attraction’s not just a one-way street. The Universe will do its part, but we have to do ours too.